Saturday, March 24, 2012

Recently I made reference to a life plan that I outlined several years ago. Among the notes on the plan was this one;

-Between age 30-35
- have children
-3

I was a bit cavalier about the mechanics of this, I was confident that I’d have a partner and lacking that, there was always the sperm bank. Time and consideration has helped me focus and now that I’m thirty I think about it. Now the idea of the sperm bank is off putting, I’d like the children to know who their father is and I would prefer a partner to share the joy of raising them.

At the time I believed my partner would be Christine, that when she finished school it would be our opportunity to build a life. That didn’t happen. Of course Christine wouldn’t have solved the fatherhood issue, but it may have produced an option. Rachel and Amy both would like children and they asked their brothers if they would be the father of each of their children. The brothers agreed and Amy recently announced her pregnancy. This strikes me as an elegant solution, though not available to everyone, but Chris had three brothers...

Then along came Andre. Early in our relationship I had doubts about him, but over time I began to appreciate his qualities, one of which was his love of children. We talked about children and family, and one thing he was clear about is that when he became a father, he wanted the woman to be someone with whom he was in a committed relationship. That turned out not to be us.

Kim

4 Comments:

Blogger J said...

30 is still young. There is time, particularly with fertility clinics. I know you are not obsessed about this, but being aware of time is always a smart thing.

Jean

10:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Is Christine still single?

11:10 PM  
Blogger Kim said...

No idea on C's relationship situation. I do know where she is working and I know the owner of the firm, but beyond that, nothing.

After we stood 20m apart across an open hall and she looked straight at me and then turned her back to me a walked away without acknowledging me, I gave up caring about her. She may as well be a stranger.

Yes I do harbor some anger.

K

3:37 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Why did you and C breakup exactly? I never understood why. She knew about your escorting. Could that be it?

9:44 AM  

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